Google love...

I stumbled across this today and found it REALLY interesting.

Googling for Help on Marriage

by Dave Boehi

What can you learn about the state of many marriages today from Google's most popular searches?

Sadly, quite a bit.

To see for yourself, go to the homepage for Google and type in "My husband." Google's "auto complete" function will then provide you with a number of suggestions to finish your search phrase, based on its most popular searches. Here's what came up on my browser:

My husband

...is annoying

...hates me

...doesn't love me

...is a jerk

...ignores me

...cheated on me

...is an alcoholic

Type in "My marriage" and here's what happens with the Google auto complete function:

My marriage

...is falling apart

...is in trouble

...is over

...is failing

...was a mistake

Pretty sobering.

I can't take credit for this idea. A colleague here at FamilyLife recently sent me an interesting blog post by Eyder Paralta on National Public Radio's website. "I once heard Andreas Weigend--former chief scientist for Amazon--say that Internet searches reveal our most secret desires," Paralta wrote. Taking his cue from another blogger, Paralta tested this theory by typing "How can I get my wife" and "How can I get my husband" into Google. Here's what appeared:

How can I get my wife

...to love me again

...in the mood

...to trust me again.

Here was a similar search:

How can I get my husband

...to fall in love with me again

...to be more affectionate

...to help around the house

...to want me

...to be more romantic

...back

This is just one piece of the picture of American marriage. But it's enough to show once again how many people are looking for help for their marriages and families.

Update on me!

Hi all! It has been quite a while since I updated my blog. So since I have a few minutes I thought I would send an update out! Fun!

Well weight loss wise, as of Tuesday February 9,2010, I have lost 54 pounds. I am officially 196 pounds and PROUD. In a month I will have my year anniversary of the start of my journey! It is crazy! When I started this journey I set my long term goal weight at 180 pounds. It is so close. So I decided once I hit my long term goal I am going to set another goal. I wanna be 150 pounds. That would be 100 pounds lost for me. If it takes another year, so be it! I have learned so much over these last 11 months and met so many awesome people! How amazing! I am so blessed to have a wonderful support system to help me! And it feels so awesome to have them! I love you all! I feel so much better! It is an amazing feeling to be able to run! So here is a split pic for ya. 250 and 199 pounds. I have not taken a 196 yet. I am going to try and do pics every 5 pounds now.



Also I have decided on March 6, 2010, I am going to run my first 5K. I am scared...nervous but I AM GOING TO DO IT! Kenny is going to do it with me and I am so greatful for it! Any tips yall cam give me I would greatly appreciate it!


As for things coming up in the future, I have 9 weeks 1 day of work left. 9 weeks 2 days until I see my girls in KC 12 weeks until we leave MO, and 14 weeks 5 days until I see my Becca, and 14 weeks 8 daysish until we are actually in Florida! I cant wait! I am sooo looking forward to starting a new life down there. Now just to find a job! I am looking and getting help on my resume and cover letter from Becca! She has been a big help!

So other then that...I think Thats about it. Ghost Hunting is going well we are now apart of the TAPS Family which is soooo exciting! Work...well it's work! Cant wait to be done! LOL! That means more days closer to everything!

Thanks for checking out my blog! Hope yall have a WONDERFUL DAY!!!

Journal....

December 17 2009

So I decided that it is way easier to type journals then to write them. I type way faster then I write. My to do list will still be written but things like these I am going to start to type.

There are soooo many things flying through my head right now. From the move, to taxes, to this new car, to my job, to exercising and eating right and taking care of my family! SOOO many things swirling. ECK!! Guess I will just take em one at time here.

The move- the af hurry up and wait tactic is really ticking me off. Me the organized person who needs control and needs to make sure we have everything settled cant do anything until the earliest middle January...AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Taxes- so now is the time of year where I get to do the “ fun” activity of gathering my receipts and getting all my deductions in order. I am sure that things will work out just fine. They did last year. Even though I made double this year. I had 4 extra kids to take out. I am stressed all of a sudden hit me about taxes next year. Filing in Missouri and Florida and Ohio...ECKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We will do this!!! We have to do this!

New car- SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy about it. The one thing I am not so stressed over. I am relieved to have a dependable car. All I have to do is get all the paperwork ready and send it off. I will have to do that next week. No problem.

Jobs- I have been thinking about all the job opportunities in Florida. I need to work on my resume and get it together with a cover letter. Need to rock that.

Exercise and health- I need to make sure the next 2 weeks I am keeping up my routine. Maybe mixing things up going to the gym. But I am by myself. This is the perfect opportunity to rock it! TIME TO GET IT DONE!. 20 weeks until finale!

Family- Christmas away from the family again this year has been hard. We have not been home in years. It is sad. But I am hoping we get to skype. We have not had that in the years past! It will be awesome.

Going through stuff- I have not had the energy to get out in the garage and go through things and get into closets. We really don't have a lot of stuff. I am trying to sell things to make some extra money and it is working. Which is nice. I think Kenny and I could get things all together in a weekend. I think we could maybe a weekend and a few days. We will get it done. Lots of stuff to donate! Going to go through my fat clothes and donate them! I can not believe I just said that! LOL!

OK, I am actually starting to feel better. I just have to remember that Florida is a NEW START! No worries going into Florida. We need to squash them!!! We need to take one step at a time and cross those bridges when we get tot them. Not worry 6 months in advance like this. I will get through this. Kenny has been my rock! He tells me he will take care of it and that everything is going to be OK. I need to remember that! …..EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK!!!

A Change is Finally a Comin!

A change is finally a comin!

I have been waiting and praying for a change to come in my life and after many, many, many disappointments, FINALLY I get one. We are moving to Florida!!! When Kenny told me that we were moving to Florida the first words out of my mouth was.....I need to work out! LOL! I wanna look healthy especially living in Florida! Plus, we are hopefully going home before we head down there and I wanna look SUPER DUPER awesome when I see my family! So FINALLY something awesome to focus on and look forward to and work towards! I have 5 months....I can and will do this! There is so much stuff that I have to do in those 5 months, but a healthy lifestyle never stops! So my routine sticks! And by the time I get to Florida...I am hoping to be at my first goal weight of 180 pounds. Then I can start my next 30 pounds and then it maintain time! I will be training for my half marathon too! So finally big changes are coming....and for once.....

I AM READY!

Anna and the chinese buffet....

So last night was a BATTLE. We met a few friends at a local Chinese restaurant. Which is my favorite. I wanted to suggest a healthy option but was shot down. So I took the chance.

As I sat outside of the restaurant I STILL had no idea what I was going to do! I sat down at the table and STILL had no idea what I was going to do. As I sat there I thought to myself...is it worth it. Is it the best option for me today? Do I wanna blow my week, and not get a free day on Saturday.....WELL, I decided NOPE. I sat there and watched everyone eat the food I wanted SOOOOOO bad! Nope, a glass of ice water held me over until we left and I headed straight to subway!

I can not even express how proud of myself I was! I COULD NOT believe myself. I had the self control. WOW! A few months ago I would not have even thought twice and just ate it...but I didn't!

Grocery Store Anxiety

So, I am in between workouts and I thought I would let you know about my experience this morning at the grocery store.

So there were a few things that i had forgot at the store saturday that I needed to pick up today. Well it was the first trip back to the store since I got back on the wagon. And it was a doozie. I have NEVER had so much anxiety going into a grocery store! I was so afraid that I would not stick to my list! I sat in the car for 5 minutes talking myself to go in! CrAzY! I went in and think I broke the world's fastest shopping record! I got in and got out. Wavered on one thing. I got a diet mountain dew. Diet ehhhh, at least it was not regular.

So my store adventure.....wow!

Ready...Set....GO

So over the last I would say 2 1/2 weeks I have been out of control. Out of wacko....OUT! No exercise, eating whatever...yeah...NOT GOOD!

So today November 1st. I am recommitting myself to do this for myself. To leave all mental drama behind me. To focus on me and the people I love the most. To make a routine and stick with it, even if I have to push trough the pain. To not get tunnel vision. Realize that yes there is a life outside of weight loss. And I have a right to live that too! I need to learn that exercise and weight loss and eating right is apart of my life now. I need to take things out and put things in so I can get it right. I think I have a few things figured out, but there is still a long way to go!

New start, new day! I AM WORTH IT! I am committed to do this FOR MYSELF, BY MYSELF! No one can do it for me! I am ready to start this full force again and not let anyone or anything get in MY way!

I will do this MY WAY and I will get it right! I am SOOOOO close and have came SOOOO far. I REFUSE to stop now!